By Heather Varner
Heather Varner has written for xojane.com and time.com about grief.
At the age of 23, I lost my mom to a tragic motorcycle accident.
Losing her was unforeseen, unpredictable, and the pure definition of ‘earth-shattering.’ My life didn’t change because of her death – it stopped. Now, four years later, I look back and see my life not as one continuous narrative, but a two-parted tale, that in many ways is disconnected. There was Life Before, and Life After.